Friday / July 29 / 2011
Words mirror the inner you: choose wisely
In 2011, I am so troubled by words I often find myself pausing to find the appropriate one before finishing a sentence. This works fine as a writer, but seems silly in verbal conversation. Just ask my friends and co-workers how many times in recent months I’ve apologized for said pauses noting, “I’ve got no words left.” (Although if you ask my husband, he’ll refer you to our first video blog, where I admitted I often use more words in the first hour than he does in the whole day.)
Here’s one: Tolerant. — The older I get, the more I realize we should NOT be ‘tolerant’ of one another. We should be accepting. ‘Tolerant’ is just a word excuse to make us seem noble as we pass judgment on something or someone “we know is wrong”. The truth is, we can only fully understand what we know based on our own beliefs, behaviors, experiences, even sexual preference. But acceptance (not tolerance) comes when we recognize and embrace that not everyone is just like us (…whew!)
Gay. Christian. Black. — What’s right? What’s permissible? What can I say without offending? Nowadays when someone asks me if I’m a Christian, my first response is, “it depends on what you mean by Christian” – because the truth is, if the asker bills himself a ‘Christian’ and behaves like a self-righteous, arrogant buffoon, I am most certainly not going to say, “yes, I’m like you.” I love Jesus and am humbled to have Him in my life. I don’t need to be labeled in order to love Him — or for someone else to deem that I do. Incidentally, Jesus Himself wasn’t even a Christian! He couldn’t be. He hadn’t died on the cross yet. Hmmmmm… now I’ve got you thinking.
Words can kill us as people. Whether we choose the wrong ones or don’t use the right ones.
Here’s a good one… “No!” — This is one of my favorites, especially when it comes to the freedom found in The You Evolution™. You are allowed to say, “no”, my friends. You are not superhuman, able to conquer every challenge given you. You are a human being, who needs rest and self-fulfillment. No matter how much you love your job, are dedicated to your church, adore your child’s softball team, or fancy playing tennis – sometimes you simply have to say, “no”. Try it just once this weekend – I dare you. Then “Leave a Reply” below and tell us what you did (…or didn’t do).