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Saturday / February 16 / 2013

[Guest Post] When the friendship is worth the fight: Part I

The pelican is my favorite bird. I'm fascinated with the beauty of these large birds in flight. So glorious. So effortless. I captured this flock as they flew overhead at Huntington Beach State Park in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina (Sept. 2011).
The pelican is my favorite bird. I’m fascinated with the beauty of these large birds in flight. So glorious. So effortless. I captured this flock as they flew overhead at Huntington Beach State Park in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina (Sept. 2011).

Today’s guest post comes to us from David Covey, a beloved, long-time family friend, who will forever own real estate in my heart. To give you a glimpse, Dave is the man who –20 years ago– congratulated me on my engagement and then turned to Skip, shook his hand firmly, and said, “If you EVER do ANYthing to hurt her… I WILL hunt you down and kill you.” Dave Covey has radio in his blood, is a master entertainer, and after successfully managing businesses and broadcast technologies for close to 50 years, still revels in freelance management, writing, and photography. My friend David embraces life with fervor and writes likewise. Buckle up…
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Human behavior, with all of its quirks and spins, fascinates me totally and always has. It, without question, is one of the most challenging mazes in this world to navigate without running into dead ends.

Somehow I had the God-given foresight, as a child in my late single numbers, an adolescent [and even now as a still older child!], to rewind what I felt were the questionable parts of my self-defined critical days. With my head pillowed in the dark before sleeping, I would muse over what I thought might be better ways to have handled certain situations. They ran the gamut of friends, parents, girls-girls-girls, marriage, business, truths, trust and motivation.

Please let me be clear that the only art I consider myself to be somewhat rehearsed at is SEARCHING – for clues and answers, all within the thicket of building a mind and body at peace.

Donna asked if I would consider writing a Guest Blog about the Friendship and the Fight. I am honored and grateful for her confidence as well as the opportunity to share some footnotes to a life that has worked for me, twisted as it has been from time to time.

Several axioms I have picked up over the years come to mind:

Pam Fahs, Donna Smaldone, Dave Covey (Feb 15, 2013)

Pam Fahs, Donna Smaldone, Dave Covey (Feb 15, 2013)

    • The only thing of which the mind never tires is Learning! -Aristotle
    • Knowledge is Power! -many
    • Without Contrasts, Life gets Boring -I’m sure it can’t be my original
    • ROL [I love acronyms.  “ROL with the Changes”.] Reality=Objectivity=Love for Self
    • R&R: Relax and Review!  Without these, our good rules to live by often get lost and forgotten in the din of everyday living.
    • Never Confuse the Simplicity of a Solution with its power. Keep it simple whenever possible!
    • A Good Friend is someone who always remembers your birthday but can’t remember your age. –Pam Fahs, my dearest partner

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STAY TUNED! Coming tomorrow, David Covey will suggest how to apply these principles to stressed friendships (you know — the ones you’re ready to toss to the vultures?!) in, “When the friendship is worth the fight: Part II“.

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