Sunday / July 17 / 2011
When being gay isn’t always so gay: part I of III
But gay doesn’t necessarily mean gay anymore, does it. Nowadays, gay means homosexual, which I’m sorry to say does not always translate, ‘happy’.
Hence why when you click on ‘stage lyrics’ at the top of the West Side Story page, the lyrics read, “I feel pretty and witty and bright!”
Why is it so hard for gay people to be gay? I’m asking not only about the ability and freedom to be happy – but also the ability to be true to their gay self. A better question may be, why does our society make it so hard for gay people to be gay?
As a heterosexual female, who holds grand affection and respect for my gay, lesbian and transgender friends, I recognize I can never truly “get it.” I wish I could, but I admit there’s a certain luxury to being a heterosexual.
A few things really struck me as I was putting together this blog post series. I have never introduced myself as, “Donna – a heterosexual.” So why then, is the standard different for homosexuals? Why is society enamored with a good love story until they realize it’s about two guys (gasp!)? Nothing about the story changed, except the gender assumption you took upon yourself to make. The love is still there and PS, is still very real.
As a new blogger, I’ve been looking at how others blog about love and relationships. In my search, I happened upon a blog entitled, This Gay Relationship by Rick Modien, a fascinating 51-year-old writer living in Metro Vancouver, Canada. Rick has been in a happy, committed, monogamous relationship with Chris for 19 years, someone he deems, “the most amazing man and human being.” I’m excited to say you’ll be hearing more from Rick on Tuesday, as he’s graciously agreed to be my very first Guest Blogger.
Rick and I have only just met, yet have had the opportunity to celebrate love and life with one another. After reading about the love Skip-n-I relish, Rick shared this with me, “I felt the intense love you have for Skip in every word. The thought occurred to me, reading this post, that you totally understand how I feel about my partner, Chris. How I love him more than I ever thought I’d love anyone. My fervent wish is that everyone gets to experience the same thing at least once in his or her life.”
I choose us. And it makes no difference to me whether that “us” is me-n-Skip, Rick-n-Chris, Cindy-n-De, Lisa-n-Sally, Jen-n-Danielle, or Edie-n-Sabrina. Love is real and love abounds. Grasp hold. Live the life you were put on this earth to live. It’s all part of The You Evolution™. Embrace it.
A fun aside and further insight into me: I wrote this blog on Saturday night when Skip was playing a gig in Albany with the 80s rock band, Meltdown. I enjoyed a glass of Ménage à Trois, 2009 California red wine, had my pup Zeke at my side, and the movie, The Kids Are All Right on in the background, a movie I love and highly recommend.